Women’s Wisdom: Safe Dating – It’s Not Just For Teenagers Anymore

As grown women, we come to rely on the fact that experience matters in many aspects of our lives. We have dated, maybe married and then divorced, and we think we know what were doing when it comes to first dates and new relationships. But do we really?

We may not meet men at frat parties and dance clubs anymore, but in this age of internet dating and online relationships, ALL women, in spite of of age, need a new set of rules to keep themselves safe.

Whether you are an experienced dater or a woman getting back into the game we have the tips you need to make dating safe:

1) Get to know your date

If possible, Google him before the date and verify as much information as you can. The internet is a wonderful tool but people can easily misrepresent themselves. If hes worth dating, hes worth Googling.
Try to break a picture of his licence plate: one of our dating Goddesses arranges to meet her date outside the front door of the bar or coffee house, using her phone to break his license plate and sending it to a girlfriends phone.

2) Have an Escape plan

Text a friend and tell her/him where youll be and what time approximately you will be home; position an emergency code information but also let your friend know if you stay later than planned.
Bring some friends to the bar with you to discreetly sit off to the side and just be there if you might need back -up in that you feel concerned about your dates behaviour.
Meeting in a public (and busy) place is always safest; it gives you the most security, the most opportunities to leave, and is the most likely to prevent an uncomfortable situation if things arent going well. Dont rely on him for your transportation early on in a relationship.

3) Limit the amount of information you give out

Download an anonymous texting app, or use things like Google Voice or Vonage for blocking phone calls.
begin all the contact; make him give his number, always call or text him, not the other way around.
Use a nickname, and avoid using emails that can be connected to you. Make sure your email address and phone dont publicize your complete complete name – call block that characterize on your mobile phone and use a secondary email addy that you can sign up with your nickname.
Beware: If he is tech-savvy he can find you by your IP address! Be careful!

4)Trust your instincts and watch for the signs

Look out for sudden and intense passion or aggressive sexual behaviour seemingly not in response to anything youve said or done.
Watch for 180° flips in personality, from kind and loving, to accusatory and suspicious of your every move.
Be aware of aggressive actions or language, controlling behaviour, threats, unjust accusations or impulsivity
Be aware of repetitive or late night phone calls, excursion-bys, or any unannounced drop-ins at your workplace or home

A new relationship or already just a casual date can be exhilarating and exciting, but it is basic to remember to not get caught up in the moment. No matter how highly a man comes recommended from a friend or how often you may have chatted online, meeting confront-to-confront always method a certain level of vulnerability on your part. It is not paranoid or suspicious to play it safe and make sure that you have the best, most exciting dating experience possible. That said – there are thousands of great loving men just looking and hoping to meet a great women.